The Mask of “Authenticity”

I read an article recently about how responding gently when you’re frustrated can feel very inauthentic at times. When you’re angry and you want to let it be known, it can feel like you’re pretending to be patient, when inside you’re really bursting with frustration. Even though we all know …

Healing isn’t Easy

I know it’s not so easy; healing from trauma. It’s intimidating and can feel impossible. It involves so much more than just “getting over it”. It involves talking about the experiences. It involves going into the dark, scary places, and finding out just what is down there. It means we …

Popular GP Words and Phrases pt 2

Intrinsic/Internal MotivationThe word intrinsic means “belonging naturally; essential” (essential as in; the essence of something). When you think of intrinsic motivation, it’s helpful to imagine what “reward” comes naturally to a task or goal. For example, having a nice smelling kitchen with dishes that are always readily available is are …

Popular GP Words and Phrases pt. 1

In this article, you’ll find concise descriptions of popular words and phrases that are often used in the gentle parenting community. +++ BoundariesPut simply, boundaries are lines that you draw around certain behaviors and expectations that mark the difference between “acceptable” and “unacceptable”. They are essentially whatever ways you choose …

On Yelling

I see a lot of people joke about how their kids have magical selective hearing; that when it comes to making a request, (“Please stop the video games for a few minutes to help straighten up”), the children don’t listen until mom loses her cool and starts yelling. I think …

When Our Children Disagree…

One of the things I love most about gentle parenting is that we get to encourage our children to be wholly themselves. It is not rare, especially in Christian circles, to see parents raising children who are not allowed to disagree with them. Putting on a happy face and going …